The Catch-22 I Went Through

A few days ago I was walking on the service lane near my housing society where I saw something very helpless yet beautiful. Yes, you read it right, something helplessly beautiful. Something which was so clear and crisp about its definition that no one could raise a question. I saw a man with a mobile rotating swing which he would sometimes push or sometimes pull trough streets and lanes and small kids would sit on it to welcome their adrenaline rush. The man wore torn shoes through which his torn socks were visible, brown pant and striped colorful shirt. He carried a shadow beneath his eyes, his hands crossed with each other taking support his knees of his folded legs as he sat alone on that swing. His fingers seemed tired, tired of life. I did not fail to take a picture of this epic scene and upload it on social media, this is what we are immune to these days, we do not leave anything beautiful and sometimes we capture the earthy realities of life. His swing was painted red and white with cost of riding the swing in the middle which was rupees 20. The swing despite of being colored wore a blanket of hard luck and failure. The man was sitting on the swing, with no customers. It was evening, the day was going to end.IMG_2395

That moment, I was speechless; I asked myself “how much money he would have earned today?”, “is his earnings enough for his family?”, “will he even go to his house today?”, “is this his bad luck, or he is lucky enough?”. All such questions bombarded my head and when did I entered the lift of my building I did not know. I was silently standing in the lift when the silence of the lift broke my silence as no button was pressed and the fan also auto-stopped.

I reached my house in next 20 seconds.

I was worried about that person but there was nothing much I could do since life changing resources are still out of my reach. All I could do it wish well for him and his family and pray to that positive energy to burn all his problems. Then I realized that it was certainly a catch-22(1) for both him and me. Life was a beamer(2) for him and the whole scene was a beamer for me. For many its a chin music(3). I could not play my violin for the next few days as the thought troubled me. Then I realized that all this is the harsh truth. Life is always filled with problems till rim. Every door is at the end of a bottle neck. One should be confident and brave, hearty and humble and should continue his job, his work and fight hard for his or her desires. If the person with the swing would never sell his swing but work hard daily. He has no customers today but his worrying will not help him. His hard work will.

“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

                            ― Dalai Lama XIV

So why do not fight today and kill the future regrets or cry on mistakes ( you call them mistakes because you are helpless and unsuccessful at the present) made in past?!.

Even if only few planes flew over his swing. The swing rotates faster than the plane’s speed in the endless sky.

Thank you, I hope you liked my view.


(1).a dilemma or difficult circumstance from which there is no escape because of mutually conflicting or dependent conditions.

(2)A ball that does not bounce (usually accidentally) and passes the batsman at or about head height. If aimed straight at the batsman by a fast bowler, this is a very dangerous delivery (and generally frowned on).

(3)idle chatter.



A Day Trading Stir

The world is temporary .The incoming love of my life is a day trader(1). Never listens to me, unpredictable, does not stay long and always leaves a mark. This mark can be a scar or a soul hickey. This love can be anything; desire, affection, and even hatred. Being a little bias, I will say that every love is of the same type and even if there exists one tiny true love, he is destroyed or undervalued which leads to his slow death.

One should never rely on anyone for anything because you have no idea when that thing on which or the person on whom you are relying will disappear indifferently like a Kermit sipping tea. We value everything and prioritize each and every aspect of our life. This is human nature. But when this value shatters, the broken pieces of the soul’s mirror are no less than a nuclear bomb exploded inside our body! It pains when you are not treated the way you expected and the day ends, you predefine tomorrow as sorrowful. One simple rule: don’t ‘bro’ him if you don’t ‘know’ him, basically, don’t give unnecessary importance or an important place in your life to anyone. Be your own superhero and satisfy your needs with your superpowers.

Believe in reality. You need to create a win-win situation where you earn benefit from all the perspective. Be positive, hard as rock and as stubborn as a mule.

“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito”.     – His holiness the Dalai Lama.

Don’t lose hope and love in life. I love my violin, he never betrays me, and sounds like honey if he is treated well. He is not a day trader. He has invested in me for a long time now and this investment is going to have a huge return value later in the circle of life. I am quite sure. May the shares of your life touch cloud nine. Peace.



  1. Day trader:  Strictly, day trading is trading only within a day, irrespective of the profit and loss. Any entity which practices day trading is a day trader.

Breaking the mountain within

When there is too much stress or worry, look within.”

– His holiness the Dalai Lama

We are thinking about numerous things, incidents, reactions which we could have made in past and what we feel almost all the time; this thinking process initiates the founding of the house of worry and stress within ourselves. We try to find solutions, we reach the dark tunnel whose bright end is not so bright, we think about promises which were never fulfilled, we think about favors which were never returned and we start comparing our lives with lives of other people. In short, we start losing our taste in life and become lethargic and are lost but never found.

This tension mountain needs large scale bombing. Pain is one of the solutions to initiate lava eruption and gift peace to the god of mountain. Love bites can sometimes do magical things. Letting go can provide a paracetamol relief with no side-effects. For a healthy and open mind, for the mind to concentrate on priority tasks, for the cure of swollen cerebrum one has to take out time for the treatment, as sitting, thinking and being a couch potato can only help you to drink Netflix but not brighten up the end of the tunnel. There is a thin line between thinking and introspections.  The day we start start to untangle the entangled, is the day we would understand the real meaning of life which is ‘hard-work tending to sweet fruit’.

I have seen people going to temples, spending huge amount of money on statues and priests to get their problems resolved magically and hence vanish their stress and if their issues are resolved they call it ”God’s Miracle” and if there issues are not resolved they cover it up by stating that “there must have been something wrong or something must have been missing in their worship practices”, but they would never realize that they are stuck in a vicious circle of life where they are peace seekers, greedy for assets and mental relief and their car is continuously bumping over speed breaker of panic and anxiety.

So now after blaming human nature for its carelessness and impulsive not-understanding attitude let us understand the basic key rule to handle stress with the help of this short story titled “The glass of water”.

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, “How heavy do you think this glass of water is?”
The students’ answers ranged from 20gms to 500gms.

It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is OK. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance.
It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. If we carry our burdens and stress all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the stress becoming increasingly heavier.
What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again. We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight, put the stress of work down, put the stress of  life down. Don’t carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever weights you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for a moment if you can. Pick it up again later when you have rested.

So in the end I would say that, one should let the mountain move, let the lightning break this mountain into pieces, think about your life and break-free and say yes to yoga.